Notes written as I listened to interview with Teresa Pool as part of the Essence of Mastery Summit.
Couch…comfortable platform where we settle in and start to lounge.
Successful transactions to powerful transformations
^^ All of this is good and we can stay here forever,. We need to shift from a transactional mindset and to do this we also, as coaches, we also need to transform.
Attachment is an issue – we have our own journey to shift through mindset and belief shifts.
Some shifts to make:
Transformational is the thing beneath the thing > The bigger challenge
Who > beliefs & mindsets
Situation versus systemic pattern
In transformation > Coach becomes invisible as they support client as they let go of ego.
Attachment – Intuition as a mirror (what we are hearing, feeling, sensing) and we must let go of what we share / reflect with ZERO attachment
Feedback from intuition – Lightly set it into the session (don’t ask for permission or say “hey..” as that puts the spotlight on the coach)…. What I am hearing / sensing XYZ.
We should use clients words/tone and so on as much as possible.
When feeding back – respond with the essence: Use the client kick off narrative – what is important, what are the language patterns, what are the power words, cadence and then concisely, in a sentence summarise what was said…..What is the thing below the thing?
When the narrative is overwhelming, ask…. What is the most importance piece to you?
Note taking – Find a way that works without loosing presence – Know when to focus just to listening – Use keywords, not sentences. We are not recording ALL. Don’t write tactical stuff.
Our needs / beliefs are important as they block us – Be aware of triggers
Key reason for failing MCC >> Not doing the inner work >> work on your stuff – Coaches should also transform.
We need to….
First > identify your stuff
Second > Face your stuff
Three > Show how it shows up in your coaching
Demystify own needs – We are all imperfect – We should embrace, accept and work on our issues (vulnerability). Masterful is bringing whole imperfect self into the world.
Look for clues of your triggers > How do you start to recognise when you are starting to get triggered – Look for signals, recognise them!
Mindset is where we should work on ourselves.
When you watch dance, you don’t know who is in the lead, but dancers do:
Stuckness and I don’t know -> Be OK in exploring this and just be curious – the explorations here create the shift (watch our triggers) – See this as juicy!
Key learnings:
1> Do inner work in order to manage ourselves in betterment of our clients
2> Be ok with stickiness & I don’t k now – Use it to explore the deeper shifts!
3> Be aware of our own attachment – Work on beliefs and mindsets
4> Our stuff needs working on:
First > identify your stuff
Second > Face your stuff
Three > Show how it shows up in your coaching
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